Teen girls often go through a stage in life where they have mixed feelings. All girls experience this at some time or another but not always at the same age.
For me these feelings started when i turned 15 and they continue to overwhelm me a year later at the age of 16.
There are different phases of these feelings and they can range from happy to sad and ecstatic to depressed. I personally have experienced each one and have invented different ways to cope with them. Most of these feelings are imaginary and blown up bigger than they are due to our girly hormones.
These are all normal to experience but sometimes hard to cope with.
- You may get excited over a certain thing in your life, imaginary or real. The thought of possibly meeting new friends. This may occur from a transfer of church, school, co-op, or youth group.
- A sudden surge of confidence making you feel invincible to the problems life throws at you.
- Actually feeling content with yourself. Realizing your self beauty. Having that wonderful feeling of “I’m so Awesome and there’s nobody else like me!” Not a haughty feeling but a confident one.
- Excitement about your future. You comfort yourself with the thoughts of happy things you plan on doing in the future and that things will not always be glum. For instance: If you plan on having a family as your future, you may feel ecstatic about being married, having a baby and raising it, or having a home that you and your husband can call your own.
Sad feelings can be those of when you feel overwhelmed and again they can also be imagined and falsified.
- You wish to move on with your life. To get a job, drive a car, graduate high school, do something different from your every day, “boring” life, make friends, find love, get a phone, or change your clothing style.But you feel helpless to do any of those things. When i feel like this, i often tend to sit and listen to sad music or go on a walk by myself.
- Rejection. Some friends or strangers probably rejected you and you feel worthless or maybe they didn’t know you were in an emotional mood and teased you, thus hurting you.
- Low self confidence. This emotion can often be triggered by peer pressure. You see others around you as better or more perfect. They may try to get you to follow after them but there is hesitance on your part. You know what they’re doing is wrong, it doesn’t fit you, or your parents won’t let you follow after them. It can also be brought on by acne or other skin imperfections.
- Depression. i often find myself in a stage of depression for no apparent reason. I just feel plain depressed……about everything.
Solutions for Both Happy and Sad Feelings
Here are a few solutions I have found that work for me when I’m emotional.
Sad Feeling Solutions:
- Self-confidence: You can simply obtain this by realizing how unique you are. Realize that God made you special and you are so AWESOME because you are you. Dress in a style that you like, as long as its modest, and don’t let others tell you what style fits you. Whenever anyone teases me about my outfits, I just smile and say,”I don’t care. I like it and it’s me chic.” Me chic is a term i use that means : Something that is stylish,cute,and modest and you like it and it suits you.
- Depression: When you feel depressed maybe it’s time to examine your life. Find the source of your depression. Do you feel like your empty inside? When i feel this way I: Take a nap, read more in my Bible, get a good healthy meal and drink plenty of water. Chill. Take some time out. You time. Or You and God time. Pray and ask God to help you overcome your depression. Go for a walk. Listen to your music. Sometimes depression can be brought on by lack of sleep. Go to bed earlier and maybe sleep a little later. Or get up early after a good night’s rest and read your Bible, get some breakfast, grab a bottle of Power aide, and go for a walk. Stretching also helps me relieve some of my stress and depression. Make a personal vlog. Talk to the camera and get everything off your chest. I feel like I’ve gotten to talk to someone and the camera doesn’t get tired of listening to you.
- Rejection: Go find friends. Don’t act desperate but join groups and activities where you can find good Christian friends that won’t treat you like dirt. You don’t deserve to be pushed around by “friends” that are taking their emotions out on you.
- Talk to your parents about getting a job and your driver’s license. Find out why they aren’t letting you. If it’s because they don’t trust you, be a more trusting person. show them that they can trust you. Take on more responsibility around home. To do “grown up things” you must first have a “grown up” attitude and behavior.
I hope this helped you girls out there. Please let me know if it did.